Exploring the sugar dating platform is not without difficulties, and some of the most important things, therefore, include learning how to bargain with a sugar daddy. It does not matter whether this is your first time doing sugar dating or if you have been at it for a while; knowing how to confidently negotiate your expectations will go a long way toward ensuring the best possible outcome. Still, as we pointed out in the previous section, it is necessary to follow some steps to approach negotiations with the proper level of preparedness.
Its important that you know your worth or value as a sugar baby
Here are the principles one must have in mind before negotiating with a sugar daddy according to their worth, women need to establish themselves. Unlike other things you see in media and society where it is predominantly a physical attribute that is being referred to when one is said to be ‘pene,’ it includes everything that one offers in a relationship – be it personality, intelligence, companionship, uniqueness, among others.
Learning what one has to offer is the best way to describe knowledge of self-asset
It is important to start with a general pool by considering one’s competencies. Do you enjoy the company of people and love speaking to them? Are you bringing thrill and excitement into your clients’ lives? May be you are a caring person and hence those around you feel wanted and valued. Each of these aspects will help you be sure in this point and feel comfortable while negotiations with the employer.
Finally, let’s evaluate the goals and needs a candidate or an employee has to achieve or satisfy on the position they are interested in or have.
So what do you expect in a sugar relationship? Finally, an effective communication or a transference of expectation entails that forward one should understand his or her standards, skills or desire particularly when it comes to; financial security, sponsorship, or glamour. The things that one wants and needs should be clear so that one does not end up with something or someone that he or she does not deserve.
Preparing for the Negotiation
Preparation is the major requirement in the process of negotiations. What is more, if you approach the discussion armed with definite expectations and efficient knowledge of the existing market conditions, your chances for winning will considerably increase.
Researching the Market
It is also advisable to take sometime and look at what other sugar babies are getting in the way of allowances and other perquisites. It will be of benefit to know the various fees that different types of arrangements attract in order to be able to create a standard to begin comparing with. This will also help you in making sure you do not either ask for little or else go for much more than what you require.
Setting Clear Boundaries
Sugar relationships should have healthy boundaries like any other kind of a relationship but they should be more strict at times. It is good to have the set bottom line on what you are willing to do and where you stand. It is encouraged that during the negotiating stage one should inform the other party of all the limitations regarding the agreement so as to avoid having these set limits challenged at a later date.
Entering the Sugar Baby’s point of view, we should now shift to the Sugar Daddy’s view.
The advice is to try to put yourself in your sugar daddy’s shoes. What are his expectations? What does he value in the arrangement? This is because, by appreciating what he wants and needs, then the negotiations will be presented under a new perspective with him standing to gain more from the deal you are offering him.
Who Said to Whom First: The First Message in the Negotiation Communication Process
Of course the initiation of the negotiation conversation can be a source of stress, now there are many ways with which it does not have to be a negativity process.
Time And Place In Choosing
Timing is everything. It is advisable to opt for a time when both of you are comfortable or rather in a good temper. Ideally, it has to be a closed and quiet environment so that both of you can speak freely.
How to Talk to Your Kids About Money: The Case of Matters Related to Allowance
When it comes to talking about money, you don’t have to be aggressive but be straightforward. It would sound something like this, “I believe that we should do everything possible to make this as a mutually beneficial arrangement as we can and I thought that it would be good if we could discuss what each of us expect. ” This is non-oblivious and can pave way for truthfulness.
Effective Communication Tips
While talking to him avoid blame and use assertion, make use of “I” phrases. For case, “I am okay with such anc such an amount X,” or “It would be ideal if we could date X times in a month.” The language used here does not put the partner on the spot, it simply demands what one needs.
Common Negotiation Topics
As mentioned above, there are some issues that sugar babies and sugar daddies may discuss during the negotiation of sugar relationship. It is suggested to be ready to discuss the topic in order the conversation would go smoothly and without offense.
Time Commitment and Availability
The frequency of encountering each other as well as the amount of time one will spend with the other is another feature importance. It is best to be truthful as to how much time you are willing to spend during your time together and make sure that your expectations are corresponding.
Defining Relationship Boundaries
Explain what that would mean: Are the two of you just going to go on dates? Are you going to get physical? Or both? Both the parties should ensure that they are in agreement on the same point so that there is no confusion later.
Handling Rejections or Counteroffers
Sometimes things do not turn out the way we planned them and this is a very good illustration of what may happen even in negotiations. Rejections, or counteroffers, for that matter, give you directions to how the rest of the relationship will be like.
Staying Confident and Assertive
If your sugar daddy gives a counteroffer, which his not up to your expectations, do not rush into agreeing with him. You can’t rush these things and it’s alright to take your time, think it over and make another offer. To men, ensure that you show confidence and assertiveness showing that you know your worth.
Now, take this as the method on how not to compromise.
In any negotiation process, there will always be give and take, but ensure you don’t give up on what the deserve. Try and strike a balance that will be comfortable for both of you while seeing to it that your needs are being met.
When to Walk Away
It may reach a time that the two of you will realize that your expectations are not met and therefore, may part ways. If that’s the case, then it is very important to know when to let go of the fight. It is better to break the association on a pleasant note than to agree on something that isn’t beneficial for you. After the bargaining is over, the next step is to write it down and further practice effective communications.
Formalizing the Agreement
Not all of the sugar arrangements require the written agreements, but it can be useful to at least have the idea in mind what has to be written down at the end of the day. This could just be a text of the highlights of the information that was discussed or even an e-mail.
Keeping Communication Open
Although the initial agreement can be made in one or several meetings, it is necessary to keep on discussing how it is beneficial for both the parties. People need to be in touch with each other to make sure that there is satisfaction when it comes to the relationship and any problem that may arise is solved.
The idea discussing things with a SugarDaddy seems a bit overwhelming to some extent, however, it isn’t a bad experience as most people tend to think of it. Therefore, by knowing your worth, praying, dressing as appropriate, then preparing for the meeting, then being polite and attentive and expressing your needs to the other party, one can set the stage for feeling good about him or herself and the mutual need satisfaction between the two parties. So, the primary message of the show is: to be confident—that’s the most important thing; know what you want and demand it.
For more tips on navigating the sugar dating world, check out our Sugar Daddy Allowance Guide and learn how to make the most of your sugar relationship!
